It’s funny how messages keep popping in. Last week it was the emails from 2009. This week it is a series of CDs from a local church on “Breathing room” from 2013 (back when I needed to listen to it but probably not ready) I came across as I was cleaning out drawers preparing to put our house on the market. The theme of the CDs is whether it is your schedule, finances or relationships. Do you have breathing room? The resounding answer is NO!!! I am now in a place I never thought I would be in and so much of it I could see happening but because I did not take action I allowed it.
But what I have done is DECIDE! I have decided things must change and they are because I ask myself these 2 questions
1) What I am pretending not to know?
I was lazy (ouch) and not willing to walk my talk and take the necessary actions to build my business and improve my health over the last 2 years. I created this situation from my fear of “what if” and regret of “I should of” I was frozen on the tracks waiting for the train to hit me.
2) What would the person I intend to become do next?
MOVE!!! GET OFF OF THE TRACKS!!! DO IT NOW!!!! The other thing the series had me focus on is what are the most important things in your life. It’s not money but relationships. Because I have no breathing room ALL my relationships have taken a back seat. But this time instead of ignoring the situation and taking another nap. I am taking action!!!
So I am focusing on tasks the will benefit my future self because I love her and I know she deserves everything on her DMP.
I received this text from my oldest son yesterday. “Reading some Oscar Wilde and this line reminded me of our talks about regret: To regret one’s own experiences is to arrest one’s own development. To deny one’s own experiences is to put a lie into the lips of one’s own life. It is no less than a denial of the soul. So timely as I prepare to sell the house we have lived in the past 10 years. So many great memories and yet so many regrets. But the reality is we can not go back and undo one moment from the past and my future is still not here or even guaranteed. All we have is this moment and to focus on anywhere but the present moment will only lead to more regret.
DO IT NOW!!!
“I will avoid with fury the killers of time. Procrastination I will destroy with action; doubt I will bury under faith; fear I will dismember with confidence.”
These are my new mantras as i go through the day. Choosing to pick action, faith and confidence in every moment with a good sprinkling of happiness, gratitude and positivity. I know I will attract the things I want in my life not the things I don’t want. So I will chose to not look back but stay in the moment because that is where the magic is and the only time that really matters.
My heroes’ journey continues as I am off to clean out the pantry fully present and smiling !!! Because I do everything NOW!!
While scrolling through email for some unknown reason emails dated the spring of 2009 filled my inbox. Reading what I was doing, who I was talking to and how I was responding was a priceless gift. I have often shared that my life was filled with drama and I can now see i was addicted to it. I also could see in those emails why my youngest son had said to me “Your the crazy lady that butts in” Best insight my little yoda ever shared with me. Although it was painful to read many of them, it helped me to see how much I have grown through the years and especially now with the MKMMA program.
What have i learned instead:
Be an observer
Don’t give advice unless asked for and you are an expert
Send love and gratitude
Most people like their cement and its not my job to chisel at it. It is theirs.
What you focus on grows
The greatest secret should not be a secret
As I write in week 18 I am in awe that I am still here. It may not be perfect but I am here. This my new blueprint. I always keep my promises and I do it now!!!
“Any reason why Frank won’t talk to me? What’s up with that shit?!”
In my two and half years of Network Marketing I have noticed people becoming angry with me, un-friending me on facebook and basically telling people I sucked as a leader and I was the reason they couldn’t succeed. As an empath it always really bothered me because I always had my other distributors best interest at heart and I was always encouraging them to improve and do their best. I would offer my opinion of what books they “should” read, podcasts they “should” listen to. AHA!!! Light bulb moment last week when Mark J. shared how people at this point would start focusing on things outside themselves to complain and get angry about. I loved how he chuckled because it was so obvious to see what they were doing. They were unwilling to walk the Hero’s Journey. They were going to keep their cement thank you!!!
The above comment was a text I received at our last regional training from a distributor who has been in our business for a year with little success. To an observer it is obvious to see why he has not had success. What you focus on grows. Recently I have recommended some podcasts for him to listen to that I think hit a little too close to home. To have to look in the mirror and realize for things to change he had to change I believe was too much. So the complaint about Frank, then they “forgot” to adjust their auto-ship so this month he had to pay for some of his product when it easily could of all been free, “I didn’t encourage him to come to conference”, and then I heard I was pressuring him to come when “he obviously couldn’t afford it.” Easier to find a reason outside yourself to quit then to continue on the hero’s journey.
I have learned to be a silent observer in the last few months and now I would of allowed him to find his ow podcasts. I no longer offer my opinion on what I feel someone “needs or should” listen to. As I walk my Hero’s Journey I am realizing there will be people who won’t want to make the trip. I will love them and let them go because there is no turning back for me.
My old print has decided it wanted to remind me of where I have come from and how far i have traveled from my original destination. This week brought with it lots of drama that played out because of things I didn’t handle with integrity months before. No one would say I caused the problem but I didn’t go out of my way to prevent it. I was protecting myself from an emotional vampire by running away rather dealing with it assertively. I now realize the answer is love and gratitude with a lot of healthy boundaries. My new blue print will not allow this needless drama.
I was proud that the situation did not put me in to a complete tail spin like it would of in the past. I was the observer and realized that I am in control of who I attract in to my life and how I react to a situation. I don’t need to be drawn into drama that I am not in control of or did not create.
“If you wish to eliminate fear, concentrate on courage.
If you wish to eliminate lack, concentrate on abundance.
If you wish to eliminate disease, concentrate on health”
I am choosing to be grateful for this experience as a chance to learn and grow because I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy!
The theme of this week was kindness and being unique. What I found out this week is that I am really kind. I found out being kind is my default. I don’t mean that in a bragging way its just the way I have learned to be in the world. I am sure it has a lot to do with being a nurse and case manager but also being very aware of what is going on around me and very sensitive to others pain. This week I opened my eyes to others being kind and it was everywhere. it is so true what you focus on will grown. 8 years back there was a lot of drama in my life but I can see now how I fed that and put energy to it. Now i no longer respond to it and it has gone away as have the people who brought me the drama. There is no room in my life for such energy vampires. I am growing kindness.
Being unique is harder to be comfortable with as I am always trying to fit in but never really fitting in. And the reason I don’t fit in is because I am natures greatest miracle and I am one of kind.
This passage really spoke to me.
“I am not on this earth by chance. I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not to shrink to a grain of sand. Henceforth will I apply all my efforts to become the highest mountain of all and I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy.”
“Thought may lead to action of any kind, but whatever the action, it is simply the thought attempting to express itself in visible form. It is evident, therefore, that if we wish desirable conditions, we can afford to entertain only desirable thoughts.”
The biggest take aways i have had in the masterkey program is how powerful our words are and what we think about will become a reality.
I have seen this play out in my own life. I have shared before my sons believe he would be a doctor even though he seemed an unlikely candidate at certain times in his life. He never wavered in his believe and he will attend medical school this fall. That is unless he defers a year to continue to grow his start up company that is getting the attention of many investors. Why? Because he BELIEVES!!!!
On the other hand I have a friend who for 4 years has been telling me what they are worried about. “I am afraid I am going to be let go, I am afraid I can’t pay my bills, I am afraid, I am afraid on and on and on.” When my friend spoke of these things I thought they were nuts. How could that be possible with everything had going for themselves. Well their fear is playing out exactly as they had predicted. As if they had written the script. But they did didn’t they.
If you listen to people long enough you can predict the future. Because they will tell you exactly how their life will go. Everything that follows I am is what it will be. The Earl Nightingale “The strangest secret” had a huge impact on me and I am encouraging my family members and my other team mates to listen to it. I can not stand for this strange secret to remain a secret!!!
“As you believe so will it be done unto you” – The Master Teacher